Ch. 2 I'm not a regular mom, I'm a naked mom
I wanted to sit in the bathtub because my stomach was hurting. I left my husband & Hendrix in the living room & was alone in our bathroom for only a few minutes before I heard the familiar patter of running footsteps. *POOF* a little human appeared beside the bathtub & asked to get in. My husband entered the bathroom at that moment & tried to corral Hendrix back to the living room so I could be alone, but I stopped him. I did want be alone, but someday, this child will stop asking to get into the tub with me & I will grieve when that day comes. That day is not today.
I've recently learned there is a term for moms like me (& maybe you too) - "naked mom" - which refers to a mother who is comfortable being nude in front of her children during daily routines like showering, using the bathroom, changing, etc.
Aren't all moms naked moms?
Having grown up with a 'naked mom', I've spent the majority of my life thinking that children seeing their mother naked was the norm, until I received this comment a week ago from a random woman online:
Click here to see what bikini warranted this comment.
If this stranger was upset about my bikini, her head would spin if she knew that Hendrix sees me in my birthday suit! But as her comment continued to receive likes, I knew that this woman's beliefs were not hers alone.
Her comment brought me back to a conversation I had with my mother-in-law while I was pregnant with Hendrix. I remember it like it was yesterday, despite it being 5+ years ago. I was telling her about my glorious plan to breastfeed my son & I could see the judgement her eyes. She explained to me that she did not breastfeed either of her two boys because they were boys & how it was different for my mom to have breastfed me & my sister because my mom had girls.
Was this internet stranger upset merely because I wore a skimpy suit (my original thought) or was it specifically because it was in front of my son & it would be different if I had a daughter?
I have not responded to this stranger's comment, & I probably never will, but if I did, I would tell her two things:
1. There is nothing 'typical' about our home. Our son is autistic & requires constant supervision. Our interior doors have no locks & remain open all day until bedtime. If my husband isn’t home, Hendrix is coming to the bathroom with me. Privacy is not a priority in our home & I don’t foresee a near future where it will be.
2. My naked mom always used to say:
so keep your cunty comments to yourself & don’t worry about my mf bikini.
I will die on this hill that a mother should not have to move through her own home with modesty & that un-sexualized nudity inside the house is not only harmless but healthy.
& when the time comes that Hendrix wants to bathe alone, or doesn't need help getting dressed or doesn't require constant supervision, our son's privacy will be respected, but right now is not that time.
Naked moms, I see you & I get it.
Non-naked moms, I want to understand. If you have anything insightful or thought-provoking to add to this comment section, I would love to read it, even if I don't agree with it, but please remember to be kind.
Love always, Lin
As a fellow naked mom to a boy, I get what you are saying and there will always be naysayers on this topic because they don’t want us over-sexualizing our bodies in the first place. But in my opinion, if we show them natural beauty early then they won’t seek out the fake and falseness of this world. Keep doing you mama and don’t let the cranky, hoity-toity bitches get you down! 😘
As a fellow naked mom to a boy, I get what you are saying and there will always be naysayers on this topic because they don’t want us over-sexualizing our bodies in the first place. But in my opinion, if we show them natural beauty early then they won’t seek out the fake and falseness of this world. Keep doing you mama and don’t let the cranky, hoity-toity bitches get you down! 😘
I am a naked mom to an 8 year old boy with autism. He has never made a comment on my body or his own body, let alone anyone else’s body. I think there is beauty in that innocence. To not know how to judge and to be unaware that other people do it! How freeing would it be to live like that!
You are absolutely right. And I can probably bet that woman has no children.
We have a healthy home, and being nude is normal for us, it’s not sexualized either. My kids walk around naked, and sometimes I walk around with only a towel in my hair after a shower. Don’t ever feel guilty or confused about whether you’re doing the right thing. The problem is them, honestly. They are the ones who have sexualized being naked, or even breastfeeding. Why would anyone do that?
My children are happy and healthy, and they see no malice in our family being nude at all. Some people are just unhappy, and it isn’t our responsibility to fix that.
P.S. I’m sorry to the mothers who didn’t give their children the chance to be breastfed because of the sex they were born as. That’s even more bizarre to me. If you can produce breast milk, why not breastfeed?
Loved your post. Hugs 🤍
Really interesting you posted this I think its fuckinh fabulous you and your writing. you know I love you and all that you do . It’s interesting to me because I was very open with being naked with my mom and I am as well with H . What about the dad tho.. because the comment about being a girl and breastfeeding and it not being ok for a boy . Obviously that’s the old way of thinking and we are in a different time now but my husband will sometimes walk around naked he’s def a naked dad and sometimes I’m like put clothes on cuz I’m like H doesn’t need to see that and it would be different if she was a boy. in the end I resonate with this but also have questions lmaooo
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